This week on the podcast the topic of the week was Rejecion senstivity Dysphoria . But was is Rejecion sensitivity Dysphoria?
Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is a common triats found in people with ADHD and Autism where we struggle to gain the ability to regulate our emotional responses to feelings of failure and rejection.
The Rejecionhere can be perceived or real depending on the circumstances. For me personally, I've never had a scenario where my RSD has come true. However, it still feels genuine.
A typical example of Rejection sensitivity Dysphoria for me occurs whilst attending parties or significant events.
I often get exhausted, wanting to be alone and not talk to anyone. As a consequene people pick up on this and decide to leave me alone.
For the short term this fine as it allows me to recover, hower once I'm feeling rejuvenated, re-joining the conversatioin is the most significant battle it feels like.
Although not confirmed, my mind starts spiralling, wondering if anyone still likes me or I'm a failure.
My mindset could go two ways depending on who I am surrounded by.
I start to have a meltdown and believe that I am a failure even though no one has said that to me.
or
2. I have friends and family around me supporting me and telling me that I am loved, and no one thinks I am a failure.
The problem with the second one is that you will only sometimes have someone with you trying to persuade you that your mindset is wrong. So what do you do then?
You plan ahead and find things that make you calm and relaxed. Fidget toys, for me, work well.
Writing down my experince, almost like I'm writing a letter. Letting all my emotions out and then re-visiting them later on. Here I reflect on my experiance. I ask myself, What happened. Was there a misunderstanding? Is this person usually a horrible person or did they do something not releasing it would hurt you?
Although this isn't a quick fix, it helps me rationalise my emotions until I can talk to my emotional support person to get a second opinion in a calmer state.
This may only work for some, but it works for me.
Rejection sensitivity Dysphoria is somthing that I have always had and always will have for the rest of my life. However, I slowly understand that sometimes just because you think a certain way, it doesn't always mean it is.
I hope you enjoyed the podcast and I'll see you next week for more disability content.
Athina
xoxo
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